Stop Doing This If You Want To Find Mr. Right
One of the most common things that happens is you find that you’re waiting for Mr. Right (the man of your dreams).
And this woman I know had been waiting for the right one for like 5 years.
She had done all the manifesting things that people had said would work: getting into her feminine, doing affirmations, a vision board, crystals, journaling, feng shui your bedroom, you name she had done it.
She was now feeling hopeless and wondering if time had passed her by (was it too late for her? was there anyone out there who was right for her?)
Here’s the advice I gave that will move you ahead instead of waiting:
1. Get clear:
I’m not talking about a list of your dream guys’ characteristics. I mean getting clear on your vision for your life. It’s not enough to claim who you want. You need to tap into how your life will change, what lifestyle you’ll have together and what your day to day life will look and feel like. Map it out for yourself. Will you have dinner every night together? Will you go on big adventures around the world?
2. Willingness:
All the affirmations in the world will not get past an unwillingness to be flexible, get out of your comfort zone, open your heart to new love, do things you don’t necessarily like doing (online dating) and actually have conversations. The most common way this shows up is: I won’t be with anyone unless they (insert laundry list of requirements that go way beyond deal breakers and standards). Unwillingness (you may have to dig to find it) and rigidity are probably two of the biggest barriers I see in finding the one. Are you willing to do, be and roll with uncertainty so you can have the loving and secure relationship you desire?
3. Take action:
The only man who will show up at your door when you’re waiting with your vision board is the UPS man and he’s probably already married. You have to get out into the world. Do a variety of things. For example, take classes, go to social mixers and sign up for online dating. The more avenues you create to meet someone, the better, because you’ll be in a state of openness and receptivity. It’s not that one particular action will work better than another; to bring in your dream relationship it’s about doing the action and being the woman who is actively seeking love.
Which one hit home for you the most: 1, 2, or 3?