Episode #63: From Self-Abandonment to Self-Trust: How to Break the Unavailable Love Pattern After 40
Welcome to the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys podcast. This is the show for single women over 40 who are done wasting time on emotionally unavailable guys and ready for real, healthy love.
I’m Truly Eleanor, an intuitive dating coach with over 17 years of experience, and I help women stop chasing, stop doubting, and start choosing relationships that actually feel good.
If you’ve ever thought:
“Why do I keep attracting the same kind of guy?”
“Why does healthy love feel unfamiliar?”
“Why does dating feel harder the moment I start to care?”
You’re in the right place.
This podcast is where emotional healing meets real-world dating, so you can finally trust yourself, spot red flags early, and move toward love that’s calm, mutual, and deeply connected.
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Love is closer than you think. Let’s get started.
Your intuition hasn’t abandoned you. It hasn’t gone quiet. Something specific is drowning it out, and until you name it, you’ll keep second-guessing yourself right out of your own best decisions.
This episode is for any woman over 40 who’s wondering why she can’t trust herself in dating anymore. You used to know things. You used to have good instincts. And somehow, somewhere along the way, all that got muddier.
There are five specific habits that block your intuition in dating after 40, and the wildest part? Most of them look like virtues. They look like being careful, being kind, being smart. That’s what makes them so sneaky.
What’s Inside This Episode:
- Why the thing you think is helping you figure him out is actually the biggest reason you can’t hear yourself
- The “nice” habit that looks like generosity but is quietly working against you
- What’s really happening when your gut says one thing and your brain immediately shuts it down
- The sneaky belief that makes your intuition go silent, and how to know if it’s running the show right now
🎧 Listen now and figure out which of the five has the most grip on you right now.
And if you’re ready to start trusting yourself again in dating, the free guide is a good place to begin: https://trulyeleanor.com/datingapps
You can’t make Mr. Unavailable love you, but you can choose someone who does. Love is closer than you think.
Ever looked back at your dating history and thought, “Why does this keep happening to me?”
Not in a self-critical way. Just genuinely baffled. Like, you’re a smart woman. You know what you want. And yet somehow you keep ending up in the same place.
My guest this week, Pi Venus Winslow, spent years in that exact loop. And what she eventually figured out wasn’t about the men at all.
She’s a published author, speaker, and transformational coach who helps people heal from narcissistic upbringings and codependency, and she brought all of it to this conversation.
Episode 63 is out now and it’s one of the most honest conversations I’ve had on this podcast.
Listen now to start breaking the pattern of unavailable love!
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