The Best Practices to Develop Your Intuition For Dating (Especially When You’re Tired of Dating BS)
If you’re a single woman over 40 and you’ve just about had it with all the dating BS—the second-guessing, the endless texting, the ghosting, and, of course, the emotionally unavailable guys—then it’s time to change your approach.
No more wasting energy trying to decode mixed signals or chasing someone who might love you someday. It’s time to tune into your inner guidance and let your intuition lead the way to the love you truly desire.
Let’s break down some of the best practices for developing your intuition—so you can finally get off the merry-go-round of exhausting relationships and into something real and beautiful.
Why Intuition Is the Fast Track to Mr. Right
You might think intuition is something only gifted people have. Not true. Intuition is your natural inner compass, and it’s especially powerful when it comes to love.
But if you’ve been stuck in your head, overanalyzing texts, trying to follow “rules,” or just feeling like you don’t know what to trust anymore—you’re not alone.
That’s why I created a simple, practical framework to help you get back in touch with yourself and actually start trusting what you feel:
The 3 Pillars of Intuitive Dating
- Awareness
Start by becoming aware of the signals, messages, or gut feelings you’re getting. What are you noticing in your body, your heart, your thoughts?
Also become aware of your patterns—especially the ones that have led you back to the same unavailable guys again and again. - Acceptance
Awareness without judgment is key. We’re not here to beat ourselves up. If you’ve made choices you’re not proud of or followed advice that didn’t work—welcome to the club.
Acceptance helps you turn awareness into self-love instead of self-blame. - Connection
Intuition strengthens when you’re deeply connected to yourself. This includes being in touch with your heart, your emotions, and your physical body. The more you create intentional time to connect inward, the easier it becomes to hear your intuition clearly—and use it to make aligned dating choices.
Practical Ways to Develop Your Intuition
Here’s how to put those pillars into practice in your everyday life (and especially when you’re dating):
1. Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Heart
Your mind loves to give conflicting messages—one minute he’s “the one,” the next you’re convinced he’s a disaster. Your heart, on the other hand, is consistent.
Start by placing your hand on your heart, closing your eyes, and asking:
What is my heart telling me right now?
2. Believe Yourself
You are not making it up.
You are not crazy.
That feeling you got that something was off about that guy on the first date? That was your intuition.
Start giving yourself the benefit of the doubt. Practice trusting even the quietest whispers from your inner knowing.
3. Clear Your Emotional Clutter
Intuition gets fuzzy when your emotional body is overloaded.
If you’re still holding onto rage, grief, or disappointment from a past relationship, it’s time to release it.
Try:
- Free-flow journaling (ask: What do I need to let go of today?)
- Tapping/EFT on old stories and heartbreak
- Guided meditations to release past patterns and clear your energy
4. Use Emotional Boundaries
Being intuitive doesn’t mean absorbing everyone’s emotions.
Check in with this simple question:
Is this mine?
You’ll be amazed how quickly you can let go of energy that’s not even yours.
5. Strengthen Your Energetic Boundaries
Feeling drained after socializing or going on dates? That’s your sign to ground yourself.
Try a simple morning practice:
- Visualize roots growing from your feet into the earth
- Say aloud: I am fully in my body
- At night, release anything you picked up with the mantra: I let go of any energy that is not mine
Final Thoughts: This Is a Way of Life, Not a Quick Fix
You don’t have to “perfect” your intuition overnight. And no, you don’t have to be some serene, meditating goddess who never gets triggered. (Trust me—I used to call myself the Hot Mess Express )
Developing your intuition is a daily practice, a kind of emotional hygiene, and a loving commitment to yourself. Some days you’ll be in deep awareness, others you’ll feel full acceptance, and some days you’ll feel beautifully connected.
Let that be enough. That’s how you build a solid foundation for love—not just with Mr. Right, but with yourself.
Because when you can trust yourself, you’ll never chase the wrong guy again.
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✨ You already know more than you think you do. It’s time to trust it.
