Are You a Single Woman Over 40 Tired Of Chasing Unavailable Guys?
Here’s How to Finally Break the Cycle, 1980s Rom Com Style (But, The Modern Empowered Version)!
If you’re a woman over 40, you’ve probably experienced the frustration of getting involved with guys who seem perfect on the surface but are emotionally unavailable underneath. It’s like chasing after a dream that always slips through your fingers, leaving you wondering why you keep ending up in the same situation, time and time again.
Let’s dive into the reality of repeatedly chasing after unavailable guys, and how you can finally break free using the Let Love In Technique (LLIT).
Why Do We Chase Unavailable Guys?
We’ve all been there—drawn to the guy who has that certain something, but can never seem to fully commit. He’s intriguing, maybe even a bit mysterious, and for a while, it feels exciting. But just like Andie in Pretty in Pink found out with Blane, there’s a downside to chasing someone who’s always got one foot out the door.
This pattern isn’t just about the thrill of the chase; it’s about getting caught up in a story that rarely has a happy ending. The excitement fades, and you’re left feeling empty, wondering why you keep choosing men who aren’t truly there for you.
Why Chasing Unavailable Guys Keeps You from Real Love
Chasing unavailable men is emotionally draining. Every time you invest in someone who isn’t fully there for you, you’re taking energy away from finding someone who is. The longer you stay in this cycle, the harder it becomes to believe that real, lasting love is possible.
Think about it: if you didn’t constantly fall for unavailable guys, how much time, energy and focus would you have to spare for the right person, someone who loves you for who you are and is ready to show up fully for you?
When I think about all the years I wasted chasing after guys who were emotionally, physically and/or mentally unavailable, it makes me want you to really get this truth bomb MUCH FASTER THAN I DID. The fastest path to a devoted love relationship is to stop chasing unavailable guys.
Introducing the Let Love In Technique (LLIT)
The good news: you can break this cycle. The Let Love In Technique (LLIT) is designed to help you detox from unavailable guys and open your heart to the love you truly deserve. Here’s how it works:
Let Go of the Past
This is about awareness more than a forgiveness practice. You need to recognize your past choices to truly see what’s been holding you back, so you can let it go and make new choices. Whether it’s past heartbreak or limiting beliefs, it’s time to detox from those old patterns—just like Andie had to let go of her past before she could truly move forward.
Love Goggles (Take off the UG glasses!)
It’s easy to romanticize the unavailable guy, but it’s time to see him for what he really is: someone who isn’t ready to commit and who won’t give you what you need (no matter how much you might want him to). The LLIT helps you see the red flags early on, so you don’t waste time and energy on someone who isn’t right for you. And this part is all about seeing and accepting your true desires, so you can focus on going after what you want.
In Yourself You Trust
Your heart and intuition is your best guide (as opposed to being in your head all the time). The LLIT teaches you how to connect deeply with the part of you that has all the answers, so you can make decisions that are aligned with what your heart truly wants—a devoted, loving relationship.
Once you’ve recognized, accepted and let go of the old patterns and learned to trust yourself, you’ll be ready to let love in. This means being open to the right kind of love—the kind that’s mutual, fulfilling, and supportive, like the kind of connection you’ve always dreamed of.
Conclusion: It’s Time to Break the Cycle
Getting involved with unavailable guys isn’t just frustrating—it’s a barrier to the real love you deserve. By recognizing the futile pattern of chasing unavailable guys, and by using the Let Love In Technique, you can finally open your heart to the love that’s been waiting for you all along.
Are you ready to stop chasing Blanes and start receiving the love you’ve always wanted? The Let Love In Technique is your guide to making it happen. It’s time to detox from those unavailable guys and welcome the devoted, loving relationship that you truly desire.
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